We often talk about how men should treat a woman and forget to talk about how a woman should treat a man

I recently posted some thoughts on my Instagram account which many of my followers and random visitors seemed to like and agree. I’d like to share those thoughts with you now and add some. Hope you’ll enjoy this too!

“We often talk about how men should treat a woman and we forget to talk about how a woman should treat a man. We demand always to be respected to the highest even if we as women are not always respectful towards men. I think we as human should always start with at least some respect with one another.
Do I think a woman should be treated like a queen by his man? Absofukkinlutely yes, if you are a good woman and good to your man too. Do I think a woman should be treated like a queen by any man just for being a woman and honestly not being that good of a person? No I do not.”

My honest opinion is that we as women demand so much and rarely stop and think about the fact that our man should be treated as a king too. As the king he is to us, in our relationship, not as a superior but as an equal (again, if he’s not an arsehole). That princess act simply does not fly with me and never has, respect has to go both ways. That is what I’ve always lived by in my relationships.

”I don't think there are rules on how you should be, and I'm not telling you WHAT is good and what is not. You are as you are, and you two (or three or four, however your relationships are build), who are in a relationship together, well you decide what works for you and what's good for you. But just because you are a woman in a relationship shouldn't be a trespass for you to misbehave, disrespect or demand so much more than what you yourself are willing to give. I know many women wouldn't put up with the things from her man she herself does. That is called double standards and I want to call your bluff.”

Honestly for a second I was afraid that some women would take my words as somewhat aggressive towards women but I’m so glad that the ladies saw what I actually meant. There should be no tresspasses for women juts for being a woman and there shouldn’t ever be just one person who decides what, when and how to do everything.

I trust that I’m not the only woman in the world who knows there are a lot of women living with double strandards. Many women flirt, cheat and disrespect their partners in million ways and can’t justify their actions in any reasonable sense so they just lean on the fact that they are women. And as in many male groups, the same happens in womens groups; we don’t always call each others bluffs or criticize each others less good behaviour but rather let that shit go on. And to me, that ain’t right. A true friend calls your bullshit and doesn’t let you be an arsehole with double standards - especially if you have a great partner.

“Attention is easy to get and a lot of guys like you. But not many value you.

Be a woman with value.”

Anyhow. To be truly respected AND valued by a man I think you need to bring value. There is a difference between being liked by a man and valued by a man. Attention is easy to get and a lot of guys like you. But not many value you. Be a woman with value.

And for the guys, as this is not a praise for your kind; be respectful towards women (and people in general!). If you only seek attention or occasional playmates, well, that is as much as you're ever going to get. And that is the best case scenario. To catch a good woman with value, you also got to bring value. So let's just all raise the bar and be better, act better, and bring some more value to this world. Who's with me?”

It’s mind blowing that people who are not that good themselves think that they deserve only the best. Like, what is the reasoning behind that?

It’s really super simple. If you want to be respected treat others with respect. If you want to have a good one be a good one. But if you don’t care about being valued or having a partner with true value then by all means carry on whatever you are now doing and how you are with yourself.

YES, LOVE AND VALUE YOURSELF. BUT ALSO ANALYZE AND BE CRITICAL OF HOW YOU THINK, ACT AND BEHAVE. SELF-LOVE WITHOUT SELF-AWARENESS IS USELESS. BE ACCOUNTABLE.

Feed the fire! / Eeva